We are the cops. You and me.
I read an amusing list online a few days ago. It was a list of how not to be “creepy.” It was all the usual things, such as “don’t touch people without their permission,” and “don’t corner people when...
View ArticleIt’s like The Drake Equation for sex!
I’ve known a lot of people who seem very unhappy because they keep forgetting one of the most important relationship facts ever. It’s an idea that has totally saved my bacon: There’s plenty of fish in...
View ArticleWe all need mirrors
It feels as if there’s an inverse relationship between a group’s claim at the efficacy of their self-policing and the actual ability for them to self-police. Or maybe there isn’t. Maybe no groups are...
View ArticleThe Fix Is In.
Fixing things is tough. Fixing social things is especially tough. People are dynamical meat systems, and capable of nearly anything. The kinds of social things I’m talking about here are events,...
View Article“Cleanup on Aisle Collaboration, please.”
There is a game I read about years ago. In that game, four kids each hold onto a broomstick, and try to push it downward into a cup on the floor. That can already be a little tricky. But there is a...
View ArticleThe Designated Control Freak
Many years ago, while traveling with new friends, we learned a phrase from them: Designated Control-Freak (or DCF). The DCF is who — in a group of people — decides where we shall have dinner that night...
View ArticleIf Wishes Were Horses…
I have been thinking for a long time now that the vast majority of “three wish” stories are to encourage people to remain happy in their stations. Most “three wish” stories end with the recipient...
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